Sxy Links: 28 Interesting Reads for January 23, 2014

  1. Doctors Discuss The Scary Side Effects Of Spanx (188 words)
    Anyone who’s ever worn shapewear undergarments like Spanx can tell you they feel like a medieval torture chamber for your internal organs, but hey, a little kidney squeezing never hurt anyone.
  2. Death to the Roving Inseminator (1853 words)
    Andrew Smiler argues that the idea that guys are evolutionarily driven to just get laid describes a small percentage of men. A great many people believe that evolution has shaped men to be promiscuous and that guys have a hard-wired desire to get laid.
  3. We Test It: The OhMiBod Lovelife Adventure Triple Stimulation Vibrator Is Perfect For Foreplay (487 words)
    Just in time for Valentine’s Day, my pals at GoodVibrations delivered something ten times better than a bouquet of flowers or box of chocolates: the OhMiBod Lovelife Adventure Triple Stimulation Vibrator. YES to sex toys.
  4. Higher Education Is Dying (570 words)
    That’s what some are claiming, because where prospective students live, households will struggle to afford university. Is a college degree worth the investment? The question seems absurd given the emphasis on plugging the brain drain and attracting talent.
  5. How to Have the Conversations You Dread Having With Your Spouse (798 words)
    Winifred Reilly wants you to know how to have the conversations you’d rather not have with your spouse. It’s true. There are some conversations you’d rather not have. Like the one about the credit card or your mother-in-law or how you hardly ever have sex.
  6. 15 Surprising Romantic Ideas To Spice Up Your Marriage (487 words)
    Surprise your partner with a picnic in the park! After a few years of marriage (and throw in long hours at work and kids into the mix) and romance may have moved pretty far down the list of priorities.
  7. A Visit to the National Sex Ed Conference (133 words)
    The magnificent Melissa Fabello and I went on a magical adventure to…. try to keep it together despite your jealousy… East Rutherford, NJ. We were there to present at the National Sex Ed Conference on how sex educators can more effectively use social media.
  8. 8 Pointers For Brits Dating in America (741 words)
    I may not have gone on a first date in over a decade but this much I know: dating in Britain happens at night. There’s alcohol involved.
  9. When Boys Cry (734 words)
    Our idea of “boyhood” is a relatively new phenomenon, but it already belongs in our past, not in our future. For over a century, boys have been faced with a virtually unopposed ideal of masculinity. It has defined generations. It has driven the economy and pop culture.
  10. Dater X: Greetings From Exclusivity Limbo (869 words)
    There’s no worse feeling than not knowing. And after Patrick Bateman’s web of lies (which, let’s be honest, will probably haunt me for the rest of my life), I feel the need for constant relationship reassurance. I hate the unanswered questions, and I hate the unknown.
  11. 10 Women Reveal The Sex Positions They Love — And Hate (729 words)
    How we haven’t covered this one before, is beyond me. If we don’t let you in on what sex positions we prefer, gentlemen, then how will you ever know if you’re a match with your new lady friend?
  12. 12 Gay Sex Positions Heterosexuals Should Try (2658 words)
    Ready, set, SEX. Shhh. Here’s a few secret and not-so-secret sex positions anyone can have fun with in bed, on the table, in a car…
  13. Selfie (0 words)
    Join the conversation at #BeautyIs Share what beauty means to you at http://www.dovebeautyis.com In partnership with the Sundance Institute, directed by Acad…
  14. Former Pro Football Player Reflects on Brokeback Romance with Teammate (251 words)
    This account of an affair between two men who played together on the Washington Redskins in the late ’60s/early ’70s is heartbreaking.
  15. New Study Says Requiring Ultrasounds Doesn’t Actually Prevent Abortions (344 words)
    More and more states are requiring women seeking abortions to undergo transvaginal ultrasounds in advance of the procedure, but new research shows that the forced ultrasounds aren’t changing women’s minds. Of the women studied, more than 98 percent went through with the procedure.
  16. Prostitutes Steal Millions and Walk Free (4335 words)
    Scott Rosen thought he had sealed the deal when the pretty blond 20-something got up to use the bathroom.
  17. My Night at the NSFW Oscars (1393 words)
    Porn’s current “It” girl, twenty-year-old Bonnie Rotten, takes a single hit off a joint. She passes it on to a man who admires her lipstick traces on it. He then jokes about the legal risks of keeping the butt as a souvenir for back home.
  18. The Thin End of the Whip (6284 words)
    The life of Catherine Robbe-Grillet makes Fifty Shades of Grey look like a Disney movie. In 1951, she became the mistress of the writer—and accomplished sadist—Alain Robbe-Grillet, whom she later married. Today, an 83-year-old widow, she is France’s most famous dominatrix.
  19. How To Survive The Porn Industry (0 words)
  20. Opinions About Abortion Haven’t Changed Since Roe v. Wade : Karlyn Bowman & Jennifer Marsico (710 words)
    In the 41 years since the decision, American views are remarkably stable—and just 1 percent of voters say it’s their most important issue.
  21. NASA | Six Decades of a Warming Earth (0 words)
    This visualization shows how global temperatures have risen from 1950 through the end of 2013. NASA scientists say 2013 tied for the seventh warmest of any y…
  22. A Visit to the World’s Largest Porn Convention (1596 words)
    Sex sells. From sandpaper to steak, there is seemingly nothing it can’t be used to market—save baby formula. That being said, I’m sure a think tank of modern Mad Men are currently trying to eroticize the formula game.
  23. 6 reasons female nudity can be powerful (1475 words)
    Last week, in the midst of what appears to be infinite fascination about Lena Dunham’s nudity, I saw a fundraiser for the documentary “Free the Nipple“ and also, by coincidence, talked to Facebook spokespeople about that company’s ban on visible female nipples.
  24. GOP Congressman: Wives Should ‘Voluntarily Submit’ To Their Husbands (375 words)
    A Republican congressman published a memoir last month in which he expresses his belief that “the wife is to submit to the husband,” The Washington Post reported on Wednesday. Rep. Steve Pearce (R-N.M.
  25. Google, Tell Me. Is My Son a Genius? (1043 words)
    MORE than a decade into the 21st century, we would like to think that American parents have similar standards and similar dreams for their sons and daughters.
  26. 30 Subtle Ways Your Partner Shows Affection (1428 words)
    Does he look longingly in your eyes? It’s his way of saying “I love you.” Welcome to 30 Days Of Love, our one-month initiative to bring you closer to the love you deserve just in time for Valentine’s Day. Today, we’re shining the spotlight on affection — and its role in a fulfilling relationship.
  27. The Objectification of Women: Manipulation of Women’s Faces in Music Videos Deconstructed (99 words)
    The objectification of women in media, magazines, television and cinema is a symptom of masculine oppression. Deconstructing how their appearances are made up to satisfy dominant male’s fantasies, we learn to reduce our confidence in images and to question what we see.
  28. How to Not Be a Jerk When It Comes to Gender (974 words)
    As a kid, lice seemed particularly attracted to me. The bugs infested my head all the time, meaning that throughout most of my childhood, I had a very short haircut. So, from age six to 12, I was constantly misgendered. I remember the first time it happened and how devastated I was.